When I received the note below from Amanda asking about new love, divorce, and children, I couldn't think of a better expert to call upon than Dr.
Mark Banschick, a fellow blogger on Psychology Today. Banschick is a child psychiatrist an author of the series, The Intelligent Divorce.
If you have children, a good rule of thumb is that when you introduce your children to your new partner is around the same time that you tell your ex, particularly if your children are in regular contact with their ‘absent parent’.
If you split up in very difficult circumstances, or if you feel as though your ex treated you badly, you may not be especially concerned with being careful of your ex-partner’s feelings.
In giving yourself a six-month cushion, you greatly increase your chances of getting over your ex.
In the throes of post-breakup angst, you may not like the sound of that. Rather than fight what you know is right for you, give yourself permission to put the six-month rule into practice.
I also don't want him to find out about it the way I found out about his girlfriends: by accident.
I know that this will change our dynamic to a certain extent, but I'm wondering if there's anything I can do to minimize hurt feelings or weirdness.