I have identified the following rules to change the approach:1. How fun is it to hang out with someone who only puts themselves down? If men aren’t interested in you, it probably isn’t because you aren’t a supermodel, it is probably because they can see how you feel about yourself. It is heartbreaking to see them make the same mistakes over and over again. All too often, I see friends continually devastated by their dating experiences. Don’t give them your power by allowing yourself to feel bad. She was way ahead of us on the school playground when she gave us that first kiss and we didn't know what the hell was happening, and she sure as hell is light-years ahead of us in her fifth decade. ) When a man goes on a date with a woman, the last thing he wants to hear about from her is her ex. Fellas, from the day we came out of the womb, we have been playing catchup when it comes to the wisdom and maturity of a woman. She is WAY over her ex, and doesn't want to talk about him, at all (red alert: nor should you!
But when I phoned a dating agency eight months ago, everything had taken on a new sense of urgency. ‘Haven’t you found yourself a husband yet, Bridgey? But don’t look desperate — men hate that.’ I went speed-dating, online-dating, wine-tasting dating, quiz-dating and dinner-dating.I turned up a few minutes late for one date to find that the guy had already ordered and eaten dinner without me, and I booked myself on a climbing holiday with 14 fit men, only to discover halfway up the highest mountain in North Africa that they were all married.While I did meet some really nice men, it was certainly not at the tortuous round of singles events, at which there were always more women than men and everyone had a sad, resigned look in their eyes.I realised that since turning 35 three years ago, I hadn’t met anyone I liked romantically, who was also single, straight and interested in me. ’ one married ex-boyfriend wrote on my Facebook page. I joined running clubs, did acting classes and dance classes, went on skiing holidays and singles holidays and badgered my friends to set me up with their friends.Some attempts were more successful than others: a singles holiday to Greece made me feel like Elizabeth Taylor due to all the men after me, whereas one evening spent dinner dating with seven single women in their 40s and just two men — one of whom walked out after ten minutes — made me want to give up on the idea altogether.